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 Hasani Pettiford, author/speaker

How to Tell if a Girl is "Not" Interested

Signs a girl is not interested

She keeps looking around - When a women is interested, she puts in the effort by giving you her full attention. If she's aching to end the conversation with you, looking for someone else to chat with, like the bartender, or, say, her drink, chances are she's not into you.

She's not talkative - Every dating guide will tell you the same thing: women love to talk, so let them. If,however, she limits her answers to "yes" and "no," never bothering to elaborate, you have a flat liner. Ditto if she doesn't ask you questions and shows no interest in what you have to say.

She may also mention that you remind her of her brother or guy friends, or go on about the other men she's interested in (which curiously, are nothing like you).

Her life is too hectic to accommodate a relationship.- She says she's really busy at work, she works long hours, or simply can't make the commitment. She might say this before you actually ask her out, as a preemptive strike. However, this shouldn't be taken as the smoking gun. If you get this excuse more than once, then you can throw in the towel.

You're always the one calling her and/or she doesn't return your phone calls. - Watch out, she may be avoiding you; and if she's not avoiding you, you are not on her mind and she simply forgot. Either way, this means that she has less invested than you and doesn't care enough to actively seek out your company. Here's a rule of thumb: If she doesn't return your first call, call a second time, as she may be playing hard to get. If she doesn't return your second call, you can rightly conclude that she's not into you. (Do allow a certain amount of leeway on this point; women have been told by umpteen dating books to let the man do the pursuing. She should be calling you at least once for every three times you call her.)

She avoids eye contact and physical proximity. - This is an obvious sign that many men overlook. If she is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you and make eye contact. If she is evading your gaze, however, she may be consciously trying to avoid leading you on and having to turn down your advances later. It's a sneaky little trick, but it usually works. Take it as a sign that you're not her type. If she keeps you at arm's length at all times, she may also be protecting her personal space, so make sure you don't get too close. She tries to set you up with another woman.

She is always vague about making plans - If she really wants to see you, she'll make firm plans. If she doesn't want to see you, or doesn't care one way or another, you can be pretty sure that she's not into you. If she is vague about making plans, it probably means that she is neutral about being in your company, or even worse, that she doesn't want to commit in case something better comes up. Ouch.

If she’s not interested in you…

* She NEVER initiates contact with you,

* She cancels dates with you without proposing a make-up date.

* She pours out all her emotional baggage to you.

* She playfully call you her brother.

* She talks about other guys to you.

* She is indifferent towards you.

* No matter how hard u try to impress her, she just ignores you.

* She is self absorbed and preoccupied with her own life which does not include you.

What say you?

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